How Many Friends Do You Have?

Meaningful friendship.  We all need this and crave this, but do we really experience it?  We live in a time when most of us have hundreds or thousands of “friends” on Facebook.  How do we know if these “friends” are really friends or merely acquaintances.  Perhaps some are only friends of friends or people with a common connection.

This morning I read through the account of the friendship between David and Jonathan in 1 Samuel.  I loved not only the action of friendship between these two men, but the descriptive imagery of that relationship.  See if the relationship between you and your friends measure up.

1.  Good friends have knitted souls.

The soul of Jonathan was knit to the soul of David.
(1 Samuel 18:1 ESV)

I don’t know much about knitting, but I do know that knitting two things together means they are intertwined and connected.  Notice that it was their souls that were knitted together.  This is the deepest parts of them.  Friendship is not merely a random connection, it involves the depths of who we are.

2.  Good friends love each other as much as they love themselves.

Jonathan loved him as his own soul.
(1 Samuel 18:1 ESV)

It is a given that we love our own soul.  When we love somebody else like we love our self, then we are good friends.

3.  Good friends act like they love each other.

Both David and Jonathan risked their lives, their careers and their reputations for each other.  Your actions may not have to be as drastic as it was for these two, but their should be action.

4.  Good friends are a gift from God.

The Bible verse above indicates that the souls of David and Jonathan were knitted together.  Who did the knitting?  We can assume that it was God.  God puts people in our lives and knits us together with them.  What a gift.  Receiving a gift should prompt us to be thankful.  Today offer a prayer of thanksgiving for the genuine friends whom God has given you.