If Loving You Is Wrong…

The title of this article is taken from the 1972 song performed by Luther Ingram. The full title is (If Love You is Wrong) I Don’t Want to be Right.

The story of the song is that of an adulterous man desiring to remain in adultery even though he knows it is wrong. It is clear that this adulterer has no question about the immorality of his actions. He knows the difference between right and wrong, but chooses the wrong because of his feelings of love.

Contrast this to Paul’s lament in Romans 7 in which he notes that he often does what he knows is wrong even though he so desires to do what is right.

This type of action was emblematic of the 70’s era. People were fairly clear on what was right and what was wrong. But doing wrong was often an attraction all of its own.

Fast forward 40 years to 2012.

In a shift from both the biblical culture of Paul and the modern culture of the 70’s, many postmodernists of today have lost the word “wrong” from their dictionaries. Instead of striving to abide by biblical teaching, they seek to redefine what the Bible teaches. Instead of admitting that they desire to do what is wrong, they claim that these desires are right.

Here are some of the ways this plays out today.

A married man falls madly in love with another man’s wife (or vice versa). The adulterer rationalizes that God really wants him to be happy. After all he loves the other man’s wife. The logic goes this way.

A. God made me and wants me to be happy.
B. I am happy when I am with another man’s wife.
C. God wants me to divorce my wife and marry the other woman.

Compare this to Paul’s logic.

A. God made me and has provided a way to live.
B. Even though I want to, I often don’t live this way.
C. Woe is me!

This is the 70’s logic.

A. God made me and has provided a way to live.
B. My happiness conflicts with God’s design.
C. I choose my happiness over God’s design.

The logic of today involves more than adulterers. This is one of the chief logical paradigms used by those in a homosexual relationship.

A. God made me and wants me to be happy.
B. I am happy by loving a member of my own gender.
C. God wants me to be gay.

The problem with this kind of logic is that those who espouse it don’t apply it to it’s logical extensions. If an adult man thinks he really loves a pre-teen boy or girl, should we declare that a valid ethic. What about a man who genuinely has strong feelings of love for multiple women. Should we approve of polygamy?

On and on I could go. Suffice it to say that we cannot determine right and wrong based on our feelings and emotions. There has to be a standard beyond the whims of sinful men and women.

The good news is that a standard does exist. The biblical text provides a standard for what God has designed. Our task is to properly study the Bible to see what God wants. As we align ourselves to God’s design by seeking Him with all of our beings, we will find joy and love in the proper relations.